Wow this is a really good post Liz. There is an awful lot here to go over, I would like to see it broken down a bit as separate posts because I don’t think I can comment on all the issues.
As to Republicans, I usually shut them up with a quote that a co-worker said to me when I was in construction building a high rise in Chicago. He pointed to a homeless guy sleeping in the ally and said to me “you’re closer to being him than you are Bill Gates.” Generally, everyone is closer to being homeless than they are to being Bill Gates. The real Republicans are the uber rich and all the other Republicans want to be uber rich. If you believe in the trickle down theory, go ahead and hang out with the rich, try to catch a drop of sweat from them like a little bird. I know the rich don’t sweat, because they are rich.
The impression I get from your post is “What do you really want from this interaction?” I find that most people have no clue as to what they really want from an interaction. What they say they want certainly does not fit with their behavior because their behavior does not give them what they want. However, I have learned that people do behave in a way that they get what they want, it’s just more of a sub-conscious emotional desire that they have not identified. How many times have we gotten what we said we wanted only to be dissatisfied with it, that it did not fulfill our expectation? What you are suggesting is really difficult for most people because you are asking them to confront their motivation, which brings into question, if they really “should” want what they really want. I am sorry, I have to stop writing here, this topic could be a whole book.-Peter
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