Dating the Queen

Men,

Why can’t I find a man with pulse and a job?-Kari

Since our Men haven’t stepped up to this plate, I thought that I would go ahead and write to this question….. This is a GREAT question, and one that EVERY woman has asked themselves at some point, maybe not exactly that way but this is a world wide frustration…. Men have let women down for years, and visa versa…. So a few suggestions for you, my first question is How happy are you with yourself?

1) Figure out what is bothering you about yourself and usually that will play a huge role in what men you are pulling in… The fact is men (and women) can see your faults as clearly as you can, so if you are focusing on a fault or insecurity, they can see it too. Men do love “bitches” (if you have read the book), so if you feel comforatable with yourself, and being with yourself most people will too.

2) What do you want from a man? A pulse and a job are not attributes, you need higher standards, if you start too low you will get a lower result. The fact is, people who ask for too little get too little, it is as simple as that. You deserve a castle, a prince, and royal treatment, start there, and maybe you won’t end up with Prince Charming, but maybe someone that is charming, see asking for too much allows you to land somewhere in the middle….

Make a list of the top 5 things you need from a man, then don’t accept anything less.

3) What don’t you want from a man? This is much easier to answer, figure this out, and when someone has a poor quality that you have listed turn and walk away, DON’T tell them why (it’s not your job to fix them) just move on…

4) Go on a lot of dates, this will teach you your likes and dislikes.

5) Don’t date until you are happy with yourself, it’s like going to a party with a bad attitude, you won’t have fun, no one else will have fun, and you will not be invited back… No one wants emotional baggage to carry for you, and a gentleman can always see it, and a gentleman will feel obligated to carry it for you, he will run like hell, and you won’t know why.

6) Take yourself on dates, and treat yourself like a queen. This will get you prepared for the man that comes along and treats you like one. Nothing is worse to a gentleman than a woman that doesn’t know how to take being spoiled a little. This will make you happy with dating yourself, and you won’t need a man, and then they will be magnetized. Haven’t you ever noticed that when you don’t need something, it is always there.

7) Fall in Love with you. If you love you, people will be drawn to you. Trust me, I know.

There is so much that can be suggested in this category. There is no better thought than landing the “big fish” and living “happily ever after”, the fact is you can be happy and the “big fish” might just want to land you.   

Thank you for the coffee talk, my heart is with you on your journey… Until our next coffee talk,

Lizzy

Great advice Lizzy girl, I have been learning from you for years and I love that you have coffee talk so that I can continue to remind myself about my strengths and focus less on my weaknesses. Because of your help I really truly understand how to love myself and take care of myself first. Because as we all know-”Ain’t no one happy if mama ain’t happy”! Love you girl.-Stephanie