Why Men Love Bitches

“Why Men Love Bitches”, which when I first heard the title of this book, I misheard the girl and thought she said “Why Men Live Midgets”, took me a week of justifying why men would love midgets to finally learn that the title was BITCHES…. Made a lot more sense. 

The Book is good for this reason, it teaches you to honor your existance, your happiness as a “one-some” not as a “two-some”. The author made it fun and catchy by calling you a “bitch”, which was a great marketing decision to sell the book. The fact is, too many woman long for love from outside themselves, they try to make themselves anything they think they need to be to gain love from others, and in the end they have no idea why some man doesn’t love the “fake” version of them. Crazy? I don’t think so. Crazy would be if they did love the “fake” version, and then you had to pull that off for the rest of your life.

I had a girlfriend recently call me, and talk to me for an hour about all the things she had done over the last year to make her man happy, this girl literally changed her entire belief system for her new beau…

She stopped going to church, cause he didn’t care to go, and Sundays were one of the only days she got to see this “Prince” she called a boyfriend. She stopped going dancing, because he was no Fred Astaire. She would call him and leave irate messages on his voicemail, normally she was very mild tempered. She explained every little manipulative thing she had tried. (Which by the way, would have scared me to death if I didn’t already know she was not in the movie fatal attraction)

After the conversation had gone on for atleast an hour I stopped her and asked; “Why are you allowing yourself to act like a manipulative, uncaring, crazy person?” She was shocked, and silent, and hurried off the phone. I didn’t hear from her for about two weeks, and I knew I may have over stepped my bounds as a not-so-close friend. When she finally called me back, she thanked me for not blaming her so called “Prince”, and holding her accountable for her own actions.

That’s what the books about, being held accountable for your own actions. The book is rather manipulative with rules like - Don’t bang a guy soon after you meet him, or he will not respect you, or keep trying hard to impress you. Most of us have made the mistake of sleeping with someone at the wrong time, but for me this rule isn’t to make the guy love me or not, it is whether I am ready to give that part of myself to him or not. You can get a lot of great “behaviors” from this book, and fake respecting yourself instead of faking things you think will make him fall in love with you, I guess thats healthier, eventually you might want to think about falling in love with yourself, try writing your own book “Why I Love myself”. Whether or not you are a “Bitch” or a “Midget” is really irrelevant.