“I cannot seem to make them happy”

NEWS FLASH Coffee Talkers, you cannot make someone else happy no matter what you do. My ranting preaching over the years has now turned into a public service announcement. STOP TRYING TO DO IT!

So many of my respected loved ones come to me with the complaint that they cannot ever seem to make their loved ones happy. My simple advise is to stop trying, it won’t work, and the more you try the more you waste energy, and become frustrated. I will speak bluntly because that seems to be the only thing that works well for me lately. How egotistical do you have to be to believe that you have the power over someone to determine how their life will progress and the quality of it, you don’t, and I hate to break it to you, you only have power over yourself and if you are attempting to make someone happy, you are failing.

I guess it is natural to believe that you can control everything when you are eighteen, usually by the time you are in your mid-twenties, life has handed you enough adversity to humble most of us into realizing that we are not in the drivers seat for a lot of what happens in this world, yet, I hear from so many 30-60+ year olds that they cannot make someone happy. It’s annoying and maybe, just maybe, we should make a call to action, start looking at the things that make you “happy”, and if those are other things and people, maybe you’re shallow, and if that is the case, you probably are not genuinely happy to begin with, and maybe, just maybe, someone is sick of stepping and fetching for you.

John Denver sang “Sunshine on my shoulders makes me happy”, well, he had to be looking for a blessing, I see so many unhappy drones in the sunlight all the time, proves that John wanted something to be happy about, and these cats don’t. Otherwise, everyone would be walking around happy when ever the sunlight popped through the clouds! Mr. Denver made a choice, not for anyone else, but for himself, notice, he did not sing “Sunshine on YOUR shoulders makes YOU happy”.

My point is, be happy, and be happy knowing that you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.

My Heart is with YOU on Your Journey,

Lizzy

“I cannot seem to make them happy”

NEWS FLASH Coffee Talkers, you cannot make someone else happy no matter what you do. My ranting preaching over the years has now turned into a public service announcement. STOP TRYING TO DO IT!

So many of my respected loved ones come to me with the complaint that they cannot ever seem to make their loved ones happy. My simple advise is to stop trying, it won’t work, and the more you try the more you waste energy, and become frustrated. I will speak bluntly because that seems to be the only thing that works well for me lately. How egotistical do you have to be to believe that you have the power over someone to determine how their life will progress and the quality of it, you don’t, and I hate to break it to you, you only have power over yourself and if you are attempting to make someone happy, you are failing.

I guess it is natural to believe that you can control everything when you are eighteen, usually by the time you are in your mid-twenties, life has handed you enough adversity to humble most of us into realizing that we are not in the drivers seat for a lot of what happens in this world, yet, I hear from so many 30-60+ year olds that they cannot make someone happy. It’s annoying and maybe, just maybe, we should make a call to action, start looking at the things that make you “happy”, and if those are other things and people, maybe you’re shallow, and if that is the case, you probably are not genuinely happy to begin with, and maybe, just maybe, someone is sick of stepping and fetching for you.

John Denver sang “Sunshine on my shoulders makes me happy”, well, he had to be looking for a blessing, I see so many unhappy drones in the sunlight all the time, proves that John wanted something to be happy about, and these cats don’t. Otherwise, everyone would be walking around happy when ever the sunlight popped through the clouds! Mr. Denver made a choice, not for anyone else, but for himself, notice, he did not sing “Sunshine on YOUR shoulders makes YOU happy”.

My point is, be happy, and be happy knowing that you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.

My Heart is with YOU on Your Journey,

Lizzy