Okay, so here is it, the straight talk I promised all of you as a friend. I have something that you are supposedly looking for, so I suggest you listen. If you choose not to, I am calling your bluff, you do not want happiness to begin with, you want the pursuit, you want the chase, but in fact you do not want to be happy.

Over the years, I admit, I have put myself in the position of giving advice, here especially, I have asked for all of your concerns and begged to give you solutions, and I have paid up, time and time again. I have been very lucky in the last few weeks to have been in contact with a lot of humans in the pursuit of happiness.    

I am noticing a trend. There seems to be so many that say “I just want to be happy”. I have heard that over and over, it is the one consistent longing that humans seem to have. There is just one problem, you want to be happy, but you are not willing to change ANYTHING to make yourself that way.

As this “solutions finder” that I have made myself I question “Do these people REALLY want to be happy, or are they just lacking in other conversation?”  

In so many of my conversations and correspondence I have offered the soft version of looking within yourself for fulfillment, changing your behaviors, and holding yourself accountable. This does not come easily I have reminded all.

Let me tell you, I hold the Holy Grail, right now, I am happy. I refuse not to be happy. I will allow nothing less than happiness. Here is how it works.

1)      Nothing makes you unhappy except not being grateful for what you have right now. – Come up with ten things a day to be thankful for, write them down.

2)      Is the glass half empty or half full? I have the answer to that simple question, it is not necessarily how you look at it or your perception, the way I look at it is

“If you are filling that glass or giving to the glass it is half full, if you are drinking from that glass or taking from it is half empty.”

 Stop trying to see what is being taken from you and start watching what you are giving to the world and maybe things will look a bit brighter. What the hell are you doing to make this world a better place? – Come up with something to do that doesn’t benefit you, DO IT!

3)      Stop bitching… Waste of time… - Don’t do it, it’s a waste of time, and more importantly energy

4)      Stop worrying… Waste of time… - This does not mean stop planning, planning and worrying about the future are two different things, here is an easy way to tell the difference. If it is positive, it is planning, if it is negative, it is worrying. There you go!

5)      If you ask for advice, take it, try it, because what you are doing is not working. If you simply want to “vent” describe it for what it is, venting is a waste of time, but some people need to do it. If you do not truly want advise, then stop wasting other peoples lives, if you do want it, be prepared to take it, and USE IT!

6)      Stop Blaming everyone for your problems. If you are over 20 years old, it is time to forgive your parents for not being perfect and move on. It is not your boss’s fault that you are unhappy, it is not your girlfriend or boyfriend, and it is not your friends fault. If someone has the power over you to make you unhappy, maybe you are giving them too much power? – If someone has the ability to ruin your day, admit that you are leaning too hard on them, then empower yourself by taking all the credit for your own happiness, and unhappiness.

7)      Your choice… You make a conscious decision everyday whether you want to be happy or not, happiness is a moment to moment thing, it is not a constant. You have to work for it. – Start looking for the beautiful things in life, point them out to you, and stop mentioning the ugly.

      Surround yourself with “solution finders” not problem “pointer outters”. I can find a million people out there that can name “problem after problem” but when I find someone that can step back, look at the problem, and start finding solutions, I have a PRODUCTIVE relationship. Remember, if you are standing still, you are not going anywhere. Get going. – If you are in a good mood and someone is not, tell them that their energy is going to affect your positive energy, if that does not change the way they are, get away from them. Ask people for solutions, not problems.

9)      Figure it out, do you want to search all of your life for happiness or do you want to live a happy life? Happiness is not something that is found, it is something that was never lost, and it is right with you all of the time, waiting for you to embrace it. – Stop looking for happiness, start being happy.

10)  Have a good day. You can only have it if you want it. – Say “I am having a good day” and don’t be a liar, definitely not to yourself. As a matter of fact, stop lying to everyone.  

Now, before you respond to me about all the BAD stuff that has happened to you, don’t bother, I can match you “bad for bad” and you most likely will not win, the difference is I am thankful for those adverse times and you are not. They got me to where I am today. I do not regret the past, I do not worry about the future, because neither really exists, it is today, this moment, and that I choose to be happy right now.

Some people ask me when they hear my story how I can be so happy? Here is what I tell them “Do you think that because I have had bad circumstances in my past that I deserve to suffer all my life for them? I will not.”   

I do not mean to sound self righteous, but the fact is, I am happy and you aren’t.  I love my life, I love my gifts, and I love me. No one but me is to take the credit for that and damn am I good…

My heart is with you on your journey.

Lizzy

Recently I have run into a few women that I have noticed a trend with. It has been startling to see how many of us out there NEED to be accepted by their parents. The problem with that sentence is NEED. It is natural to WANT people to “like” you, or accept what you are doing in your life.

Two of the women that I have talked to in the last week were facing the challenge of telling their mothers that they are with child. These ladies (who are in their thirties mind you) were so worried that they were losing sleep; I mean seriously, this was a “red zone case” as Caesar Milan would say. I will ignore for now what a waste of time worrying is and just talk about releasing the need for others approval.

Our parents have us, raise us, and release us into the world, all the while being proud and disappointed. Basically, by the time a parent has “done their time” they are used to both disappointment in themselves and in us as well as a sense of pride in themselves and their children. It is no question that there are no perfect parents or children in the world. As we take flight (on OUR OWN journey) we stay linked to these imperfect humans forever.

The challenge is to release into flight with only love strings attached. These are the people that love you as their child, but also love you as the only human being that they have influence in making. These are also the people that you have to thank or blame for who you are. Too many times we spend our lives trying to live up to the vision that our parents have for us, and find out too late that it is not our own vision, leaving us feeling resentful and lost. Keep in mind, when parents show disappointment sometimes, they are really showing their “ego”, they want to blame anyone but themselves for the act you are doing. After 18 years old, it is not them, it is you making choices, but sometimes they are unable to cut the apron strings.

Once you are off the books at home it is important to realize that this is our journey. It is also important to teach our children that acceptance is not a need, but a want, and if all else fails, disappointing another is much less important than disappointing ourselves.

I have a relationship with my parents, I call it friendship.

That being said; let us do our best to accept our parents for who they are, accept ourselves for whom we are, and require nothing from anyone but ourselves. If your parents don’t “like” you, IT IS OKAY, there is only a problem if YOU don’t like YOU. The only thing that I can say is lead by positive example. If you don’t like what they are, it is okay. You can still love someone without feeling admiration for who they are in their core. Someone can love you without agreeing with you.

I think that a lot of times we seem to place on others the unsure feelings we have within our own psyche, take ownership of those. If you find yourself blaming your unhappiness on someone like your parents, maybe it is you that is having a problem with the situation that you are in, therefore you need to change, not them.

Parents accept your children, at any age, disappointments and all, and maybe just maybe one day they will learn to accept your failures.

Which brings me to forgiveness…. There is not one person that I have ever talked to that has had a perfect childhood, close, but not perfect. We are all simply dysfunctional; the last perfect person that was on this earth, imperfect people hung on a cross, so it is not a bad thing that we are working from an angle of flaws. Since “those in glass houses should not throw stones” I encourage everyone to try to forgive our parents for the disappointments that they have created for us, learn from them what not to do, and be thankful that they taught you the lesson. It is the anger that is held for so long that handicaps our forward movement.

Lastly, forgive yourself for your imperfections, failures, disappointments, and down right wrong doings. It is you that is in this moment, and if you are better that you were yesterday, you are being a positive member of humanity. The three biggest wastes of time in life are guilt, worry, and anger, so quit wasting your precious time. Someone once told me that if you try to drive forward in your car, but are always looking in the rear view mirror, you are bound to hit something. Let us stop living in the past, let us forgive those who have screwed us over, and let us be better than we were yesterday, kinder, more loving, more forgiving, and more accepting.

My heart is with you on your journey,

Lizzy

So here is how my friends define friendship. The reason for doing this project is to help us all be better friends to one another. I have learned so much. I believe that when we discover what others are about we uncover our true selves.

Our friend G.R.
1) A friend should be caring. Not just about me, but about all good things, and be willing to improve a situation that needs improvement, and openly celebrate that improvement.
2) A friend should see the glass half full… not half empty. Being positive is much better than being negative.
3) A friend should be happy to laugh at himself or herself and not be afraid to laugh at and with others. This is a sign of self confidence.
4) A friend will support others in times of need and be willing to be supported when they are in need…
5) A friend should be able to talk about problems and listen about problems without being judgmental or becoming a gossip about the problem… Support is better than “fixing the problem”. Support will help a person discover learn how to fix the problem.
This is my grandmother’s first entry on letscoffeetalk. Although all my writings have been influenced by her, and when I was a child, I think back to first feeling of true friendship, and her face is there. My first friend, My G.R., my Grandmother. I cannot even begin to say what an example it set for me as a friend, I am honored to be her friend, and honored that she was giving enough to share with us today.
I will describe only this friendship on this post, when things have been tough, there has been a constant friend that has listened, left her ego at the door, sat in silence when there was nothing to be said, said nothing but what was in her heart when I was ready to listen, and never lost faith in me. She has seen me grow, regress, and dream my way to where I am today, never once holding me back. Most importantly, she makes me feel loved.

Aunt Kate-

1. Honesty – no way a friendship can exist without it.

2. Loyalty – no matter where you are in your journey they are there supporting you even if they disagree.

3. Must possess a sense of humor; be unique and smart – why you were probably attracted in the first place.

4. Must be a good listener (drinking coffee is a plus)

5. Reliable – show up for events and share times that are important in life.

It is so important to “show up”. Someone once said that “half of life is just showing up”, if that is true, the other half would be showing up in someone else’s life. Whether bad or good, things are even better or less bad if you have a true friend there. Be there for your friends, for what ever you can be, it will make your life complete.

Our friend Kristi-

1. Honesty. No one wants the friend that says I am sick, can’t make it and then when they aren’t at your party, you see them out at another bar….Sick huh?

2. Reliable. When you need them are they there for you as you are for them?

3. Communication. Talk to one another about yours and their problems, some one to listen when you need it and vice versa. Or someone that you keep in touch with and call when you have great news to share, etc.

4. Love. Is this someone you truly care about, do you love them? I feel the people that are my friends, I truly love, wish no harm on and would feel awful if something ever did happen to them. If not, they may just be acquaintances and not truly “friends”

5. Respect. Do you respect that person and their feelings.

Defining relationships for what they are, if you “love” someone they are your friend, of not they are an acquaintance. It is so important to know where people stand with you. Having the best wishes for all, make the wishes know for those you love, “I wish….. For your life”, let your friends know where you stand.

Our friend Heidi-

1) Good friends know when to listen

2) Good friends know how to tell you to be quiet and listen

3) Good friends are good friends across all passage of time and/or distance

4) Good friends don’t just pick you up when you’re down, they give you a boost to go above.

5) Good friends are good friends no matter what we say, do, throw, or lose; they see friendship first and everything else that happens second.

Number four is so near and dear to my heart, you not only need a friend when you are down and out, you need a friend to witness the good times, and even make them better. Call the one you know is doing well, make yourself a testament of positivity in that friends life. It will give you the positive strength to help another friend who is down, it will be that strength that helps you pick them up. We not only need friendship in times of need, but to celebrate abundance.

Our friend Rubin-

1) There when you NEED them. You can’t cry ‘wolf’ for nothing.

2) There to ask advice from, good or bad.

3) There to have your back no matter the situation.

4) One who does things for you without question, not surprise though.

5) Last but not least, loves you for who you are and nothing more.

Loving someone for who they are, not hoping they were different, wishing they were something else, letting them be what they are and loving them for that alone. If someone makes you feel bad for who you are, do not surround yourself with them. This has been a recent lesson for me, if you feel bad about yourself around someone; they are not your friend. No matter how good on paper they look. If you love someone, love all of them, if you cannot do that, they are not a friend.
I have been in friendships that have made me feel rotten; these weren’t friendships they were my ego trying to “fit in”.

Our friend Kathleen-

1) Honesty - must have true information exchanges don’t want parroting of my opinions

2) Confidentiality - must be able to confide without FaceBook postings

3) Positive Attitude - if you don’t know how to be positive I cannot hang with you

4) Ability to Change/Grow - relationships evolve and adaptability is crucial

5) Sense of Humor - seeing the funny side of things is how I cope

“True exchange of information”, so many times we go with the easy route, that is fine on your commute, but this is how we grow and develop through friendship, it is so important to see through others eyes, and if those are lying eyes you never get anywhere. The truth will set you free, friendships should be free like a bird allowing us to soar to the highest mountain tops.

Our friend Bill

Well, here’s one attribute of a good friend…………………..Compassionate Honesty………a good friend knows how to tell the truth without hurting their friend’s feelings.
I agree that friends should have compassion, both in hearing and listening. I suppose if you have trust you can speak without ego and can hear without ego. It is only then that friendship can blossom.
Compassionate ears are trustful ears and a compassionate voice comes from speaking from the heart. If they are not simultaneously dancing together, you are not speaking the language of friendship.

Our friend Michael-

1) Reliable – without trust in that persons ability to show up or do what they say, there is no relationship

2) Commonalities - interests/sense of humor/lifestyle – critical to wanting to spend time with them

3) Fun/Funny – making funny is fun

4) Considerate – respects others and their time

5) Honest – no explain necessary

Doing what you say you are going to do. Friendship should not be a puzzle for all of us to figure out how to put together. Life is full of disappointments, those we position ourselves in front of, and those that chance aligns us with, but at no point should a friend be a let down. This does not mean that a friend will never disappoint you, but it should be an unspoken agreement that they will do all they can to avoid it. That is friendship.

Our Friend Marie

1. Trustworthy, you want to be able to tell them things and they won’t tell other people.

2. Reliable, so they don’t let you down for meeting up etc.

3. Good listener if you need to pour your heart out.

4. Good sense of humor, always important in all people

5. Uncomplicated, by that I mean your friendship is always there and you don’t have to do nothing it is just there.

Friendship should not be complicated, it should be rather easy, when it isn’t you must take it as a red flag that it is unbalanced, too much taking or giving is going on, that is not a healthy relationship. That is not saying there is not work involved, but it should not feel like a job. Sometimes that balance becomes permanently off, it is important that you realize that the benefits are not mutual, therefore start giving more, stop giving so much, or think about where this relationship seems to be going.

Our Friend Shawna-

1. Honesty…I want the truth no matter if it hurts or not.

2. Loyalty…I would rather have one true friend than 20 fair weather friends.

3. Funny/fun…Its always important to be able to laugh with your friends.

4. Reliable…this is one I struggle with but I think it makes a good friend.

5. Uncomplicated…friendship shouldn’t be a chore…its should be enjoyable….

It is quality not quantity, having one A+ is better than having three C’s. Know them when you have them, nurture them, and be grateful for them every day.

Our Friend Stephanie-

1. TRUST- I believe you can only be really good friends with someone you trust since you are bound to tell them most things about you and your life.

2. PERSONALITY- you have to be able to have fun with your good friend, in some ways you need them to be like you and in other ways you need them to be completely different than you. But in all ways, you need to love who they are, after all one reason they are your friend because they can make you smile!

3. HOBBIES-likes and dislikes, a friend should have things in common with you, i mean what’s the point of a friend if you don’t do anything together because you have no similar hobbies. But just as important it’s good to have diff. hobbies so that you can teach, educate, and show your friend new things and vise versa. EXAMPLE- Me, Lizzy and Politics- I have never been into it, and she helps me understand and educates me about it, now I love knowing what’s going on.

4. HOT ASSOCIATIONS- whether or not they have hot family members or friends. .If not, no friend! OK THIS ONE IS A JOKE!

5. FAMILY FRIENDLY- family is huge in my life, so its important that a friend can get along and fit into my family, just as I would want to fit into theirs. It would be very hard not to be able to talk with your family about a friend because they didn’t like them.

6. GO GETTER- I really enjoy people who are willing to try new things, not afraid of life, if they complain about things then they try and fix it- i dislike lazyness, and enjoy having friends that have ambition.

Friends are chosen family, it is so important that a true friend be able to fit into all aspects of your life, like your crazy family (we all have one), your crazy other friends (we all have those too) and your general life. They must also respect those that you love, embrace them, and see them through your eyes. They do not have to “love” everyone, as it is impossible for your heart to love someone that you have a personality conflict with, but the ability to see them for what they are to your friend is what makes you a true friend.

Our Friend Doug-

1) LOYALTY - AKA BEING “TRUE-BLUE”
2) HONESTY - SOMETIME “BRUTAL HONESTY” WHEN REQUIRED
3) UNDERSTANDING
4) COMPASSION
5) SENSE OF HUMOR!!!
With a friend, sometimes you don’t need to give the “why” behind everything, even if they ask for it. Just kidding!

Our Friend Mike-
Well lets see…

1. Boobs…definitely, the bigger the better the better the friend…
2. A sexy neck…something that just makes u want to bite it…
3. A good kisser…who wants a friend who isn’t a good kisser? not me…
4. Eye contact…eye contact creates a fun dynamic between 2 friends…
5. Confidence…confident friends are the sexiest…

Um did i not read your question correctly?

All of my new friends have come from match.com in the past year. so the attributes i look for are a little skewed compared to everyone else’s i think

On a serious note.

1. A good friend is someone who you can think of and smile. Someone who is not just a ‘fair weather’ friend, but who loves you and all your baggage that you have accumulated through the years.
2. Someone who can tell you when they think you are making a mistake even though you will be mad at them for telling you.
3. Someone who will never say anything behind your back that they wouldn’t say in front of you.
4. Someone who would defend your character if others were questioning it. Someone you would trust with your children.
5. Someone you can count on like you would a brother or sister. someone who would probably leave a hole in your heart if they were gone forever…

I saved this one to talk about humor. Humor to me is the single most important thing in life, well that and love. There is nothing in a friendship that is more dear to my heart than laughter. Call your friends when something funny comes into your mind, call them immediately. With all the sadness, anger, despair, and crapola in this world, we need to laugh, it is the only cure, besides love. I have loved hundreds of friends, but it is the ones that make me laugh that I cannot live without.

Our friend Pete-

1. Have you ever been with someone who you simply want to shut up? You find yourself resenting them because they are wasting your time and energy prattling away. We all want to be listened too, want to be heard. I think most people are like me, they have no problem being heard. If I have something to say, you are going to hear it. Let me tell you something, if all your friends just listen to you, might want to ask if they think you are their friend. The more time you shut up, the more time you listen really represents how important they are to you. Me being able to listen is a trend that all my friends have.

2. I am a stimuli junky, which is why I am so glad I have never taken speed. I enjoy having my friends making me think, laugh, cry, and figure out stuff. This is probably the one thing that comes close to being check box and also the most detrimental to the friendship, additionally, makes it hard to be in a relationship with me. I consider emotions apart of this, although, I really like thinking and I like being around people who make me think. In all honesty it overshadows the emotional part. The difficult part is that I know that life is hardly stimulating. I certainly cannot be intense all of the time. So, many times I withdraw from my friendships or do not participate with the in-depth analysis of the day to day stuff. Laundry, dishes, & work do not need to be elaborated on. Even though I approach it as “letting each other live our own life” I know it is hard for most people.

3. Have you met someone who is perfect? Or in reality, is trying to look perfect? Come on, who do you think you’re kidding? I distrust perfect people. Perfection does not exist. So if you are promoting perfection you are hiding something. Life is not perfect and the more you live it, the more imperfect it becomes. I am not perfect, not by a long shot. Matter of fact, the more imperfect you are, the more life you probably have lived. My friends have lived a lot of life, and know they are not perfect. I can trust them to make mistakes and be who they are. They know I am going screw a few things up to. We don’t need to be something ideal, just ourselves, flaws included.

4. To be human is to strive to overcome one owns imperfections. This is one thing that all my friends possess; to constantly be bettering themselves, growing as a person, and overcoming their own challenges. Contentment and stability is always a momentary thing, none of my friends are stereotypical soccer moms with their boring traditional “settled” lifestyle or blissfully living on a plateau of life. They are self aware and want more from themselves. Life is not an achievement list to consider as done, but rather a series of building blocks that supports each other, along with moments of reflection and self discovery.

5. Have you ever known somebody who just agreed with everyone? Who never wanted to rock the boat? You know “Sheeple.” Nicest people around but never had an opinion. Support is a good thing, but not all the time. My friend Joe put this way, “I know when somebody has accepted me, when they tell me to shut up.” My friends challenge me, not only do they have an opinion but they will give it to me too. Some might hit me in the back of the head, others might have a bit more flare, and there are those who much latter makes me go “hey…when you said…” Confrontation is not a scary thing, we trust each other in that, although we might not like what is about to be said, we will still love each other afterwards. It is trust and an understanding that allow us to challenge each other.
“The Sheeple”, the ones who take the easy way out.
Latch on to the ones that can open your mind, I believe that when your mind closes you die, maybe not in body, but in spirit. Live with the minds that are alive! Don’t close any doors.

Our friend Kate-

1. Someone who is honest, especially when it’s something hard to be honest about.
2. Someone who you can get busy and not talk to for days, weeks, months, or years and it’s ok.

3. Someone that knows by the tone of your voice or the look in your face that your not really ok, no matter how many times you say you are, but lets you fake it anyway.

4. Some who doesn’t let you fake it anymore when it’s not healthy for you

5. YOU

Tell your friends that they are your friend. It is so important for you to let people know where they stand with you in your life’s context. If you love someone tell them so, if you don’t, don’t. The truth is so important in our lives, it makes us more aware of who we are and more aware of what influence we have in each others lives. We are all trying to live, if we allow one another to live in a fantasy we are not doing any favors. Be here, in this moment with a few great friends.

So I recently sent out an email to about 100 of my closest friends to come up with the recipe of a “great friend”. Never would I have thought that it would have received such an overwhelming response. People are proud to talk about what type of friends they have, are, want to be, and require. Up to this point this has been the most popular subject on Lets Coffee Talk.

This has also allowed me to think more about the type of friend that I am and the type of friends that I have embraced. Truthfully, in this process it has made me so grateful for some of the people in my life, it has made me miss some long lost friends, and made me consider that maybe some of my friends are better than others, some credit is just not due to some of the people I have been giving it to.

The thought process has been eye opening. I have found that some of the friends I have are actually better friends than I thought, and others really are not as good as they once were. Once thing is for sure, it has made me so much more aware and grateful for the people past and present that have drifted through my journey with me.

Laughter

I like to laugh. I find the world so funny, I find myself funny, I want to find you funny, and a friend must find life’s most mundane things amusing. There is really nothing that is not funny if you are looking for humor within it. My life has had some crappy times, but in and out of it I have somehow found the humor, it is the one constant. “Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion”-Steel Magnolias. That quote says it all.

Wants to know who I am today

No one ever stays the same, people change, develop, grow, and regress, I want to be someone who wants to know me for who I am today, who I want to be, and who I wish I was not. I need someone to want to know me not for who I was yesterday, but constantly wanting to learn about my ever changing perceptions.

Giving My life

Time is our most valuable form of trade in a friendship. Time is the only thing that I can “give” to someone that says “here, I am giving you part of my life”. If you are not willing to give your time (i.e. Life) then I do not consider you to be a friend. Whether it is talking on the phone, emailing, IMing, sending a note though the mail, stopping by for coffee, making plans for dinner, what ever it is, giving your time for no other reason than you feel like someone is worth giving a part of your life to. Not because you feel sorry for them, obligated, or just bored, but you really are enriched by spending moments together.  

Straight Talk

I like to be someone that can and will say it pretty straight, I expect the same from the people I surround myself with. There should not be secrets between friends about each other. However, there should be confidentiality, the kind that not even water torture could get out of me. I believe that if a friend tells you something that is a secret it should be heard as if it was never said, that is that. With that being said, if I am fat, call me fat, if I am a jerk, call me one, and if I am in trouble, let me know. Not everything is easy to hear, but if a friend tells you before you have to figure it out, you don’t feel like you are the last to know. This is a tough one; it is the reason that I don’t have a million friendships.

Positive Living

As I have said, I have had a bit of adversity in my life, I have had some great friends to lift me from the ditches that chance threw me into. I AM grateful for those brave individuals. If I can be someone that can see the positive lessons to be learned in any situation even if it is my own or someone else’s I feel that it is a productive relationship. It is so important to take life’s curveballs and smack them out of the park, and if everyone on my team can do it, even better. My friends must be able to live in a positive world.

“Friends” is such a weird word, often used to loosely. I consider my friends as chosen family, these are the people that often are not blood related but they are burned into my heart forever. I try not to use the words “Best” friend anymore, they are all the “best”. I am grateful for the gift of friendship that all of you have given me. I am thankful for my old friends, new friends, and future friends. I will say this, I do actually have a “best” friend, it is me, and it was the hardest relationship I ever established.

My friends are the ones that bear witness to my life, they have put my existence in context to the grand scale, it is these souls that will be able to tell my story, and they are what make me real.    

I will be gathering all the feedback that I received and posting it soon.

My heart is with you on your journey,

Lizzy

My friend Pete and I were IMing (communication is so weird these days) yesterday and we brought up the subject of what makes someone a better friend than others? Our criterion was completely different. I have decided to ask my friends what you believe makes a “friend” a “friend”. Who knows better than the people I consider my friends?

Janice and I were then talking about the same thing last night, we thought this would be a perfect subject for Lets Coffee Talk.

Could you please tell me the 5 attributes that you look for in a “friend” and why, this will give me some data to help others become a better friend to everyone else. It will also allow me to become better.

What do you consider the top FIVE qualities of a “GOOD” friend and WHY?